Stage Mums
I've just been watching a program on stage mothers. Well, watching is exaggerated - the TV was on while I was doing other things.
It gets to me every time - what on earth possesses them??? Little girls dressed up as princesses, some in a very Lolita-like way, parading to be judged on looks???
Maybe once, for the fun of it (once may be fun for the kids too), but month after month, year after year, mile after travelled mile?
And always the grooming, the "look at the judges and smile", "remember your routine", never ever behave like the child you are...
What happens to such kids? Will they ever be able to function in normal society? They're taken out of school for lond periods of time, they're made to think that they're better and better looking than everyone, they're taught to behave like spoilt starlets from an early age. Some of them are drugged too, it seems, to mellow them.
They're not allowed to be kids...
The mothers must be a breed apart too. I mean, they can't be in it for the friendships - I've never seen such a bitchy crowd!
So what makes them display their daughters (it's mostly girls) like pieces of meat? Fame and fortune? I guess so. Fame and fortune by proxy even, using their children to their own ends.
"My daughter loves it!" Yeah. Your daughter knows nothing else, and she also knows how important it is to you, so she'll play along. The last thing any child wants to be, is a disappointment to their parents. Playing along is her only option.
To me, it's a sophisticated, gilded form of child abuse. Nothing else.
I won't go on - I was just all fired up by that documentary, and this seemed as good a place as any to let out some steam.
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i don't understand it either. i have a friend that when her daughter was small wanted to be a model. she took all the courses and she was and is beautiful. but she is very short. she was rejected for her height and she was so crushed!
smiles, bee
That post, my dear, was an excellent insight, imho, of the "stage mother" syndrome. How true it is that children want to please their parents - well, most of the time anyway. But, to not allow the child the chance to just get down and dirty and have fun is so unfair. Even if a child isn't in any of these pageants, but is relegated to simply always acting the part of the little lord or lady, deprives the child of learning so much of the beauty in regular rough and tumble play. Keep saying your piece cause it's darned important!
I agree. It always makes me kinda sick in the stomach. I think that if for example, Jon Benet- hadn't been one of these "little beauty queens" she would probably have survived to this day.
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